I want my children to live a magical life.
Lately the subject of Kris (Kringle) and his compatriots has been everywhere I look. There are many who believe that telling your children about these Guardians is akin to lying. I wholeheartedly disagree! Some people believe that it’s useless in the grown up world (so why bother?). I DISAGREE!
1. Your real world bullshit should have no bearing on the beautiful, magical, imagination of your child! The real world will be there when they grow up. It’s your job to use these years to pump them up to the point where the real world can’t crush them, can’t smother them.
2. It’s your job to pass on the magic, and make it mean something! You are the parent. You can give them Santa without teaching them to be greedy. You can give them the Tooth Fairy without making them money hungry. It’s up to you to pass on the real magic.
The Real Magic
The Real Magic is the gift of giving. Giving them a gift or treat, sure, but more importantly giving them the gift of magic, imagination, tradition. When O is old enough to find out what happens backstage he will be included. We are going to make a huge deal about the tradition of Passing on the Magic. It’s never gone, it’s just our job to keep it going. It will be bittersweet, but I look forward to sneaking him out of bed late in the night to help create the magic for his younger siblings. And, yes, one day they will all “be in the know”, but what a perfect time to branch our magic out. To teach them about the gift of giving outside of your immediate family. To share with them the craft of story telling, tradition making. To help them spread magic to as many people as they can. Some call it a lie, but I think it’s just the start of a life long lesson.
I know a lot of parents gets stressed out. They worry about the cost, about the extra work. If that’s the case though, I don’t think you’re doing it right! Little kids don’t care about how perfect or store bought something is. They care about the experience, the surprise, the smile on YOUR face. Teach them what these traditions are about and they will carry those lessons through their lives.
So on that note:
Now, it’s not unheard of for a 4 year old to loose their first teeth, but I thought I had at least another year! I didn’t even notice his tooth wiggling the morning before and he brushed his teeth alone that night, so I was pretty shocked the next morning when I brushed it and it was already SO wiggly! He was a little sad because he said he didn’t want his baby teeth to leave, but now he’s pretty excited about the big boy teeth coming up! He was also fairly concerned about the teeth staying in his belly, but the Tooth Fairy was kind enough to clear that up for him. All in all, a big milestone and a great experience.
Don’t forget to look for magic in your everyday. If you can’t find any, make some! The magic in these holidays and traditions isn’t just for your kids, it’s for you too. You just have to embrace it.